And then they shall see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with great power and majesty.—St. Luke chapter 21. Not a God clothed with our weaknesses, hidden in the darkness of a wretched stable, housed in a crib, treated with derision and mockery, bowed to earth by the heavy burden of His Cross, but a God who, clad in the glorious splendor of His great power and majesty, makes known His advent by the most terrifying manifestations, by the darkening of the sun and the moon, by the falling of the stars and by the upheaval of all creation. Not a Redeemer who comes with the meekness of a lamb to be judged by men whom He tries to gain over to Himself, but a judge in righteous wrath, to judge mankind with the awful measure of His [...]

Except for asking for the intercession of canonized saints, our main contact with those who have gone before us should be praying for the souls in Purgatory.  In other words, we're supposed to be praying to God for them, not usually discussing things with them. It is true that we can ask souls in Purgatory for help, but that has to be done in general asking their intercession, not specifically. In fact, it's either St. Alphonsus or St. Bellarmine who teaches that such requests on earth for intercession from the Holy Souls in Purgatory must be addressed to God first to then He asks the Holy Souls to intercede. (It's kind of reverse order from our normal requesting up the chain of command as Catholics.)  In any case, the doctor of the Church probably proposed this notion of going to [...]